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When I read that quote by Arthur Ashe 8 years ago, I was NOT living my authentic life.  Like the majority, I was trying to live a life I had been told to live. I held a position at a large corporation which gave me no fulfillment. It was extremely stressful, provided very little income and was a dead-end position with no future. My marriage was failing. I had two young kids who I barely spent time with.  My aging parents were having serious health issues, and I couldn't spare neither time nor money to visit them. My own body was suffering with extreme pain and discomfort. But the worst part of all was the feeling of failure I had to endure every day. 

I was full of fear. All I knew was I had to do something. I knew I had to get to a better place. I  believed as a parent I owed my kids a better mom and a better life. 

Financially, I was in no position to quit my job.  But after reading Arthur's quote I realized  that was my "start".  So, I quit and took a straight commission job at another company as an insurance  sales executive.  This position provided me no base salary, no health insurance and no benefits.  The only promise was the potential for earning an unlimited income. Not knowing where my next paycheck would come from and how much it would be, I dove in and gave it my all.  

I knew if I succeeded doing this, I would eventually start making other changes and improvements in my life. I knew I had to persevere.  And since I burned all my bridges behind, I had no other choice but to succeed. I worked harder than ever before. I still didn't love what I was doing; I was still stressed out and in pain. I still had no time for my kids nor my parents; my marriage was getting worse. BUT, this time I had one thing. I had HOPE!

 

 It took me about 2 years to replace what I was earning at my other job.  And in my 5th year with the company I was the #1 District Manager in the state with my quota and earned my first 6-figure income.  I qualified for incredible bonuses and all expense paid vacations. I received trophies and got recognition beyond my wildest dreams.

Accomplishing my financial and career goals felt wonderful. It allowed me to improve many other aspects of my life.  I was certainly at a better place then 5 years ago, but a part of me was still feeling a discord.  Things still didn't feel right. I was feeling exhausted and depleted everyday. 

I was doing everything right according to the standards of the society.  I was working hard, I was constantly improving my knowledge and skill sets, I was setting goals and achieving them. 

But, why wasn't I happier?

 Feeling frustrated, I decided to hire a life coach to help me figure it out.  The very first thing my coach did was to help me understand myself and get clear on my values.  She helped me see a side of me that I had no conscious awareness.

She helped me clarify my core values and put my life in perspective.  

Together we discovered that  "Courage" and "Optimism" were two of my top values.  Examining my life from childhood forward, she helped me realized I was a "Risk Taker". 

 

YET I was selling insurance for living! 

Once I understood that, everything made sense.

 

I was sitting down with dozens of people every week and try to persuade them for why would they need insurance. In order to make a sale, I had to talk about "What if" scenarios and help them understand how having these policies would help them if they happen to get injured, diagnosed with cancer or heart disease.  ​

Truthfully, I was not lying.  I had tremendous respect for the company I worked for. They do an amazing job for their policy holders everyday and I always believed in the quality of the products I was selling. I was giving my clients the right information.  The only problem was, while I was doing that I was overwriting what I innately believed in my core as an optimistic person.  Risk didn't bother me, I didn't even owned most of those products I was selling.  Yet, everyday I would spend all my energy talking about it's benefits.   

If I happen to have "Safety and Security" as one of my top values instead of optimism, courage and risk taking, I would have been living true to my values as I did my daily work and be the most successful agent in the company while feeling fulfilled and happy.

 

 

But, my actions weren't lining up with who I was at the core, therefore it left me feeling exhausted and depleted every night.

  

 I was acting out of integrity with my soul's purpose and giving every ounce of myself on the way to success. 


Shortly after this realization I have attended my company's annual kick off meeting.  When I got up on stage to receive my awards, I remember smiling to the flashing cameras around me,  but feeling  complete emptiness inside. I realized none of it meant anything.  And by the time I climbed down from the stage, I had already made my decision to quit.

I had so many reasons to stay.  I was earning a great income and would have only gotten better from there.  I had unlimited potential for growing bonuses and other rewards. My hierarchy respected me. I had great flexibility in my schedule to accommodate  me as a single mom.

A part of me, the logical side of me, wanted to stay. It only made perfect sense.  Why on earth I walk away from something I worked so hard to get.

But, the other side of me, the intuitive side was telling me a different story. 

If I haven't discovered myself and understood who I was,I would have stayed and be miserable for the rest of my life. 

The funny thing about awakening to your truth is; once you know what you know, you cannot un-know!

I knew I had to walk away and find the path that my soul was taking me.

The process of finding myself was by far the most amazing experience I've ever had in my life and one of the most fulfilling one. 

The work I was doing with my coach moved me so much and effected me so deeply that, I was fascinated with the idea of Self Discovery.

I realized, the best gift anyone can give to themselves is the gift of "self". There is nothing more exhilarating than truly knowing and understanding  yourself. Once you are there everything else follows naturally. 

So, I made a decision to be a coach to help people to do just that. 

I now know; 

 

Life is not about fitting in and dealing with what we have. 

It is about creating what we want.

It is not about doing it all and getting it done. 

It is about figuring it out as we  go along.

It is not about being perfect. 

It is about making new decisions, setting new goals, doing the necessary course corrections and not feeling bad about starting over when you need to.

 

It is not about completion;  it is about the process and the experience.

It is about truly  living! 

TRAININGS and CERTIFICATIONS

Coach 

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