In the process of finding ourselves, we loose a lot of who we are not! And that, is a wonderful thing...


Each one of us is created with something special - something that the world needs at this time. 

There never was  and never will be another person with the same combination of what makes you YOU! 

You are so much more than what meets the eye.

If you are feeling stuck and unfulfilled with your life, chances are you have gifts and talents that you neglected.  You pushed them aside, because you couldn't find a space for them in your busy existence. 

But, your existence will never be complete without the authentic expression of your gifts.

The world needs to see that. The world is waiting for you to express it.


What is given to you is given to share not to keep. 

                                                                                                                                     -Mother Teresa

The term GIFT or GIFTED is widely misunderstood.

In our society, we use the word "gifted" only for those who are exceptionally talented in art or music or intellectually advanced in science and mathematics.

This is what stops many of us from seeing value in ourselves and in our talents.

Gifts are simply "Talents" or "Strengths" which every single one of us has, but only a few recognize, believe in, nurture and share that innate brilliance.


Not one talent is more valuable than any other, considering the circumstances when they are needed at a given time.

Each gift, no matter how insignificant it may appear, has the capacity to change the world!

However, since our societies formed in a way to value certain talents and devalue others, we all grow up thinking. "Our worth is equal to the level of approval we receive from our surroundings."  

This is why most of us never dare to express our gifts.


In order to fit in and prove our value, we overwork parts of ourselves that are not really us and overlook the parts that make us who we really are. 

It is better to follow the Voice inside and be at war with the whole world, than to follow the ways of the world and be at war with your deepest self."

                                                                              -Michael Pastore

Nothing is more tragic than seeing people live their entire lives and never discover who they truly were meant to be in this lifetime.

As one of my mentors says, “The gifts we have are not ours to keep; we owe to humanity to share those gifts and use them for good.”  

But if we don’t even know what gifts we possess, how do we go about using them to create value?

So, our biggest duty as human beings is to discover our authentic selves and figure out which angle can allow us to shine the brightest.   

That is when we will be in our element.

That is when we will be our best. 

That is when we create value for others. 

And, that is when the world can become a better place not just for us, but for everyone we touch!

You cannot train people to create talent. 

You can create skills and you can create knowledge to help them be more effective in what they do. But, you cannot create talent."       - Don Clifton-

We have been taught to believe if we work hard and long enough we can be, do and have anything we want. "The sky is the limit" we heard.  Although I am a very positive person and lived by this statement my entire life, I no longer believe the complete accuracy of this statement

-at least not in a sense that is understood by most people. 

 Yes, we can get to places and accomplish things with hard work and continuous effort. However, this is going about it the hard way. 

It is going against our natural energies which we are created with.  It is not the best use of our limited, precious time on earth.

Hard work and effort eventually create frustration, resentment and heartache, and in most cases, causes people to give up before reaching that pinnacle. And if they happen to reach that pinnacle they quickly realize that it didn't bring them the happiness they were after.

However, when we practice our gifts, skills and talents and work on perfecting what comes naturally to us, things feel effortless and easy

and life becomes a joyous journey. 

When our knowledge and skills training takes place in the area of our natural gifts and strengths... That is when the real magic happens!  

We all have a GIFT... Each one of us!

You have a gift. You may not know what it is, you may not acknowledge it as a gift, but you have one!

What we don't realize is, whether we are aware of it or not we are all using it - consciously or subconsciously - it is somehow showing up in our lives.

You cannot completely ignore your gift.  It is in your nature, and you are born with it. 

You cannot turn it on or off.  It is part of YOU.

You may push it away, but you cannot ignore it without feeling the discord in your being.

Sometimes without realizing, we channel our gifts in destructive ways. Those are the areas of our lives we feel the most conflict.  Therefore, it is possible that our biggest problems in life might be the indicator of where our biggest gift resides. 

If you are feeling unfulfilled in your life, chances are you might be unknowingly suppressing your gifted side or somehow channeling it in ways that are actually hurting you and the people around you.


So, the question is NOT if you have a gift or not. The question you need to ask yourself is:


Am I using my gift consciously & productively or unconsciously & destructively? 

Is my gift being reflected by design or default?

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